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Why Having A Disability Could HELP Your Dating Game

That’s a sentence I bet you never thought you’d read, right? Disabled people, no matter what their disability is, will generally have a lower confidence level. It can take them a long time to dip into the dating game and start looking for someone they can spend their life with, and for the most part, they will struggle to find singles that they have something in common with that can deal with the limitations that the disability may mean for your relationship.

Well, if ‘they’ are anything like me that’s the case. I wasn’t born with my disability. It was something that just happened to me and it took me a long time to get my head around it. It certainly wasn’t something that came easy at first…

dating for disabledThe thing that you need to remember is that disabled dating could actually work in your favour… Don’t believe us? Let’s find out more!

If you’ve come to terms with your disability, you’ll put others that have questions about it at ease. You’ll be able to answer their questions and make them feel comfortable. You’ll be more used to awkward and difficult conversations than others may be too. Think about it – you’re already one step ahead in the game!

You show vulnerability, which can especially work in the favour of men. It shows that you know how to ask and accept for help. It shows that you have a vulnerable side. Women and men love to nurture and care for a vulnerable person… Just saying!

It makes you more interesting. You stand out from the crowd. People will notice you. People will be more inclined to talk to you. Why not use that to your advantage? I’ve learned to. You can too.

The thing you need to remember is that when you have confidence in the world of disabled dating, it shows. It shows in the way as with the dating singles on the “regular” dating sites too. It doesn’t matter what your disability is. You could have lost both legs and still enter the room and be the most confident person there. Just take a look at other disabled people you see around you and watch how they handle various social situations. You’ll soon see what I’m saying.

In a world that is packed with people, standing out from the crowd isn’t such a bad thing. Having a disability shouldn’t be a negative impact on your life. At first it might be; don’t get me wrong, being disabled is something that takes some getting used to, but once you’ve learned how to use it to enhance your life, or enable you to do something in a slightly different way, you’ll be a much happier and more positive person. How can you expect someone to help you with something if you don’t know what kind of help that you need? In the same breath, how can you expect someone to know how to deal with something that you yourself haven’t yet learned how to deal with?

Your first start to dating should probably be a site designed for dating for special needs or the disabled. First of all, you have nothing to lose, and secondly, you may make great friends. It’s always good to have a support network around you and you never know, you might even learn something.

Why Arent You Finding Disabled Singles Online

Dating when you have a disability, regardless of what that disability may be, can seem like the last thing on your to-do list. Let’s face it; your love life hasn’t been ‘all that’ up until this point… You’ve basically given up hope, right? You’ve tried everything… You can’t find love.

Have you even tried internet dating?

Internet dating has made the dating world easier for everyone but for disabled people, it has given them something of a lifeline. For those that have a disability that leave them housebound, online dating can be the only thing you’ll need to meet someone new and exciting. The times are changing and it would appear you should be too! Who knows who you might meet as you ‘creep’ through the bucket-loads of hunky and handsome men, or blonde and busty women.

Disabled dating websites specifically created to help people like you and me find love are a great way to start if you don’t feel ready to join the big pond of “regular” dating sites. You’ll all have something in common on these websites too, so you’ll always have something to talk about. You never know, it might even help you to find new and improved ways of dealing with your disability. Everyone on the site is in the same boat.

Of course, you can’t join online dating websites of any kind, disabled sites for dating or otherwise, without first reading up on internet safety. There are scam artists out there, for example, that are coming up with new and improved ways to screw you out of your hard earned money. The key to being safe and avoiding these scammers is to be wise – be smart.

If they are asking too many questions, especially relating to money, report them or just block them. Why would they be more interested in that anyway? You should always remember never to get too much of your personal information out to potential scam artists too. Even something as small and insignificant as your full name, address and birthday is enough for someone to get into your personal stuff.

That’s the kind of data protection questions you would be asked in a mobile phone shop, for example, when trying to get into your account details. The moral of the story – don’t give your personal data away. If the questions you’re being asked are too sensitive, report them. If you’re not comfortable with the way the conversation is heading, stop it in its tracks.

You shouldn’t think that everyone is out there to con you though. It is easy to get carried away with all of the bad information you come across, especially on the internet. Most of the people that you meet, especially on the dating for disabled websites, are in exactly the same boat as you – just as nervous and twice as awkward. Why not make the first jump and break the ice? You never know quite who you might meet, and that one person you were just about to disregard might just be the one person you end up with.

There are loads of disabled singles web sites. One of the best is disableddatingclub.com It has been going for years, since 2003 from what I recall and it was one of the first specialist disability dating web sites.

The Disabled Dating Club How To Get In Do It Successfully

If you are sick of not dating simply because you are disabled, its time to change the way your mind thinks about things. Just because you are disabled in some way doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t enjoy all the delights that dating has to offer. From frivolous and flirty nights out to long and meaningful relationships, you can have successful disabled relationships. You just need a bit of a helping hand form time to time.

If you’re disabled and considering dipping your feet into the dating world for the first time, you need to have the right mindset for it. You should head into the adventure with an open mind and always be upfront about your disability from the start. For example, if you are in a wheelchair most of the time, there is nothing wrong with having your profile picture as you in your wheelchair. That’s a good representation of you, and if often gets that awkward bit out the way from the very beginning. We all know how awkward those first dates have been – “Oh… you’re disabled?”

You should accept yourself and your disability before you expect other people to accept it and you. You are disabled. Don’t hide it. Don’t run from it. Own it. If you are confident and happy, it doesn’t matter what your disability is, people will love you for who you are. You’ll soon see. I found happiness. I’m disabled. If I can do it, and I was the unluckiest in love person EVER, you can. That’s all I’m saying.

At the same time, don’t expect your disability to be the focus of every conversation. Not everyone is as worried as you are about the fact that you are in a wheelchair or have some sort of disability. Believe it or not, there are even disabled dating sites for you to make use of so that you can find people with the same mind frame that you have. You need to be able to understand that people aren’t interested in you because of your limitations… they are interested in you for you.

Humour, as we have mentioned before, is a great ice breaker, so if you can have a “sense of humour” you will find that life is a lot easier for you. Learn to have a laugh and not take life too seriously and people will be charmed by your wit and SOH. Laughing is often a way to make people feel more comfortable and learning to use this in the right way will definitely help you out in the long run.

If you’re having a bad day, don’t sign on to the dating site. Make yourself a cup of tea, have a bath and enjoy some relaxation time first. If you are in a bad mood, it will be portrayed to the people you are talking to, and you should always try to stay positive. If you are having a bad day and are in a bad mood, your potential new love interests will be on the end of it. You’ll be pushing people away before you’ve even started to lure them in. What’s the point in that?

At the end of the day, disabled dating is what you make of it. If you go into the adventure with a negative attitude, believing that people won’t be interest because you have a disability of some sorts, you are going to get that sort of negative attention. Go out there and put your own positive spin on things and life will much happier for you!

The first and original disabled dating club is DisabledDatingClub.com. Since then they have have set up specialist versions in UK, USA and recently Australia and Europe.

Stop Wallowing Start Disabled Dating – It’s Time To Change

Right guys and girls, it’s time to have a chat. It’s time to talk about the world of disabled dating. It’s time to talk about that thing that you’ve been putting off. Speaking of which, why exactly are you putting it off…?

What is it that you are afraid of when it comes to disabled dating? Is it the fact that you think people might laugh at you? Is it the fact that they might stand you up? Is it the fact that you don’t really want to get rejected?

disabled datingGuess what ladies and gentlemen – everyone has those fears. It’s just not disabled singles that get rejected; it’s non-disabled singles that get rejected too. I am disabled. My partner is not. He has been rejected more times than I have. I’ve slept with more people than he has. He’s had more long term relationships than I have. There’s no difference in our love or sex lives. We’ve both had our hearts broken, we’ve both broken a few hearts, and we’ve definitely had our fair share of ups and downs. How does that make disabled dating any different from ‘regular’ dating?

When I was single, I HATED dating. I especially hated internet dating. Do you know how hard it is to say to someone “Hi, I’m disabled!” when you are still coming to terms with that very fact yourself? My disability was something that happened out of nowhere. I wasn’t expecting it. I didn’t grow up with it. I’ve had to evolve around it. I needed to adapt to that myself before I expected anyone else to learn to adapt for me. How can do you expect to tell them how they need to evolve to work with your life when you aren’t really sure yourself? It takes a while, I won’t lie to you, but it does happen – life does get easier, you will get your confidence back again… if you’re willing to work, of course.

Once you get your head around the fact that your disability is something that you need to learn to live with, and also that it will cause you to have certain limitations in your relationship, life will be a lot easier. It’s not a bad thing. Disability isn’t a bad thing. It’s just something you will need to work around.

At the same time though, you’ll go through a whole host of dating and relationship dramas. You’ll meet people that will look at you funny, or will turn around and leave as soon as they see that you are disabled in some way. It’s ok though because all you need to remember is that able-bodied have all of those dramas too. Before I was disabled, a man stood me up on a date because he got to the door and saw I was a blonde. He didn’t date blondes. I can understand someone walking away because of my disability because it’s nothing something that generally occurs everyday. I was mortified that I had been stood up all those years ago just because of the colour of my hair.

It’s even worse when you don’t have a physical disability, and explaining it becomes both embarrassing and awkwardly necessary. This is something you need to cope with. That’s the harsh reality of it all – disabled dating is easy once you’ve learn how to be one of the disabled singles. Check out this great disabled web site! They have thousands of members all over Europe! Not sure where you are dear reader, as you read this.

There are a few things that will make the process easier, especially if you are online dating. For example, mentioning the disability in your profile somewhere is a great idea. It’s a part of you after all… why wouldn’t you mention it?

People will accept you but only once you have accepted yourself. You probably will get rejected. So will every single one of your non-disabled friends. You probably will get laughed at. You will get stared at. People will stand you up.

What makes you so special? Sadly, that happens to most of us.

Unless you’re Leonardo di Caprio or Rihanna… I bet they’ve not been stood up ever in their lives.