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Why Having A Disability Could HELP Your Dating Game

That’s a sentence I bet you never thought you’d read, right? Disabled people, no matter what their disability is, will generally have a lower confidence level. It can take them a long time to dip into the dating game and start looking for someone they can spend their life with, and for the most part, they will struggle to find singles that they have something in common with that can deal with the limitations that the disability may mean for your relationship.

Well, if ‘they’ are anything like me that’s the case. I wasn’t born with my disability. It was something that just happened to me and it took me a long time to get my head around it. It certainly wasn’t something that came easy at first…

dating for disabledThe thing that you need to remember is that disabled dating could actually work in your favour… Don’t believe us? Let’s find out more!

If you’ve come to terms with your disability, you’ll put others that have questions about it at ease. You’ll be able to answer their questions and make them feel comfortable. You’ll be more used to awkward and difficult conversations than others may be too. Think about it – you’re already one step ahead in the game!

You show vulnerability, which can especially work in the favour of men. It shows that you know how to ask and accept for help. It shows that you have a vulnerable side. Women and men love to nurture and care for a vulnerable person… Just saying!

It makes you more interesting. You stand out from the crowd. People will notice you. People will be more inclined to talk to you. Why not use that to your advantage? I’ve learned to. You can too.

The thing you need to remember is that when you have confidence in the world of disabled dating, it shows. It shows in the way as with the dating singles on the “regular” dating sites too. It doesn’t matter what your disability is. You could have lost both legs and still enter the room and be the most confident person there. Just take a look at other disabled people you see around you and watch how they handle various social situations. You’ll soon see what I’m saying.

In a world that is packed with people, standing out from the crowd isn’t such a bad thing. Having a disability shouldn’t be a negative impact on your life. At first it might be; don’t get me wrong, being disabled is something that takes some getting used to, but once you’ve learned how to use it to enhance your life, or enable you to do something in a slightly different way, you’ll be a much happier and more positive person. How can you expect someone to help you with something if you don’t know what kind of help that you need? In the same breath, how can you expect someone to know how to deal with something that you yourself haven’t yet learned how to deal with?

Your first start to dating should probably be a site designed for dating for special needs or the disabled. First of all, you have nothing to lose, and secondly, you may make great friends. It’s always good to have a support network around you and you never know, you might even learn something.

Why Arent You Finding Disabled Singles Online

Dating when you have a disability, regardless of what that disability may be, can seem like the last thing on your to-do list. Let’s face it; your love life hasn’t been ‘all that’ up until this point… You’ve basically given up hope, right? You’ve tried everything… You can’t find love.

Have you even tried internet dating?

Internet dating has made the dating world easier for everyone but for disabled people, it has given them something of a lifeline. For those that have a disability that leave them housebound, online dating can be the only thing you’ll need to meet someone new and exciting. The times are changing and it would appear you should be too! Who knows who you might meet as you ‘creep’ through the bucket-loads of hunky and handsome men, or blonde and busty women.

Disabled dating websites specifically created to help people like you and me find love are a great way to start if you don’t feel ready to join the big pond of “regular” dating sites. You’ll all have something in common on these websites too, so you’ll always have something to talk about. You never know, it might even help you to find new and improved ways of dealing with your disability. Everyone on the site is in the same boat.

Of course, you can’t join online dating websites of any kind, disabled sites for dating or otherwise, without first reading up on internet safety. There are scam artists out there, for example, that are coming up with new and improved ways to screw you out of your hard earned money. The key to being safe and avoiding these scammers is to be wise – be smart.

If they are asking too many questions, especially relating to money, report them or just block them. Why would they be more interested in that anyway? You should always remember never to get too much of your personal information out to potential scam artists too. Even something as small and insignificant as your full name, address and birthday is enough for someone to get into your personal stuff.

That’s the kind of data protection questions you would be asked in a mobile phone shop, for example, when trying to get into your account details. The moral of the story – don’t give your personal data away. If the questions you’re being asked are too sensitive, report them. If you’re not comfortable with the way the conversation is heading, stop it in its tracks.

You shouldn’t think that everyone is out there to con you though. It is easy to get carried away with all of the bad information you come across, especially on the internet. Most of the people that you meet, especially on the dating for disabled websites, are in exactly the same boat as you – just as nervous and twice as awkward. Why not make the first jump and break the ice? You never know quite who you might meet, and that one person you were just about to disregard might just be the one person you end up with.

There are loads of disabled singles web sites. One of the best is disableddatingclub.com It has been going for years, since 2003 from what I recall and it was one of the first specialist disability dating web sites.

Cracking The Disabled Dating Code

It doesn’t matter whether you’re one of the disabled singles out there, or if you are someone about to go on a first date with a disabled single you met online, there are a few rules that you should probably follow. Let’s face it, dating a disabled person is probably not something you try on a regular basis!

It is common for things to go wrong in certain social situations, no matter how prepared you think you are. Even if you are both disabled and can sympathise with each other over your respectful conditions, things can still go horribly wrong… Something I personally have seen a hundred and one times before!

Rather than give you a long list of things that people tend to do wrong in relationships with disabled people, I have decided to tell you what you SHOULD be doing instead. Smart, right?

disabled dating clubWhat ‘term’ do you use?

Some people call it their disability, other disabled singles call it their mobility impairment. For some it might be an illness or chronic condition. First and foremost, before anything else, ask that question – “What do you like to call it?”

You should probably be aware that it is going to come up in conversation. It is going to put certain limitations on your relationship. There are certain things that you are going to need to talk about it. Just get it out the way. Chances are, they’ll love you for being so upfront about it.

Don’t ever call “normal” people “normal”.

Who knows what “normal” is anyway. Most disabled people hate the term “normal”. And “healthy”… That’s another one that grates on us. We’re not abnormal. Nor are we unhealthy. Unlucky yes, but the other words… No!

You can use the term “able-bodied” if you like?

If disability is a deal-breaker, it’s a deal-breaker. If I smoked and you hated smokers, I would expect to get rejected. If you know full well that you couldn’t handle the disability that your potential partner is presenting to you, don’t go on the first date. Don’t ‘give it a try’ if you’re not really sure. It would be much better to reject us upfront than to string us along for a bit and then reject us. Just get it out the way. You know?

Of course, there are a couple of extra etiquette tips that it is worth taking into account too:

*If they are in a wheelchair, don’t stand above them and look down at them all the time. Find a chair and sit your butt down! Be on the same level as them. Otherwise you just look a bit rude, and occasionally intimidating. Don’t be that person.
*Make eye contact. Don’t be afraid to look. If they aren’t embarrassed by their illness or condition, why should you?
*Remember that the tools for a disability are part of the disabled daters personal space. If it’s a wheelchair, don’t interfere with it or try to get into the personal space it encompasses. If they use a stick, don’t hide it because you think it will be funny. Behave yourself. You’re meant to be an adult.
*Don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you want to know how they make it up the stairs, ask them how they make it up the stairs. You’d be surprised at how many people are too afraid to ask these things.
*Think about the actual dates before you book them. What’s the point in going somewhere completely inaccessible for a wheelchair with your wheelchair-bound date there? Be serious and be sensible. Just think about it for a moment!

Of course, above all else you should try to have fun. That’s what disabled dating is meant to be, isn’t it? Fun? Looking for an amazing disabled dating web site in Australia, I recommend disableddatingclub.com.au – check it out!